Grandma's House

What a farce! A piece of advice: don't ever live in a county full of good ole boys, because you will never be accepted as one of them. My daughter's hearing turned into a kangaroo court, and her soon-to-be ex-husband got temporary custody of their three children. At the same time, he served her with the divorce papers, which are a joke unto themselves, and the sperm donor of her oldest daughter had her served with custody papers on that child, who was visiting him for the weekend but now cannot go home to her mother! She is devastated, to say the least. This excuse for a human being has never been a father to that little girl. When he found out she was pregnant he dumped her and her belongings on our doorstep...on Christmas no less! When Delia was born, he showed up at the hospital for about five minutes, then denied he was her father. When she had to have emergency surgery for a burst appendix, he couldn't be bothered to visit. He sent his mother instead. He cared not one whit for that child until he was forced by the state to pay child support. At that point, he not only insisted on visitation (which meant taking her to his mom's house then leaving), but he began a systematic routine of keeping a job just until they started withholding the child support, then quit and move to a new one. He is currently over $8,000 in arrears. But that doesn't seem to matter around here. When she left for his house, Delia was a happy child. She is happy no longer. In addition, I can't get in touch with her because he doesn't have a phone and won't return messages. The hearing on this case is Thursday morning. He is making a lot of claims that even my son-in-law is calling B.S., but he's not sure he is going to help my daughter, because it might hurt in the divorce proceedings. We talked last night (he has always considered me more of a mother than his own...go figure), and I tried to convince him to help her. He did admit that she is one hundred times the parent that the donor ever will be. We'll see what happens. In the meantime, I am on break from school this week, but I feel like I've aged 100 years since New Years Day. Ack!!!